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Mar. 1st, 2010

Today has been a Bad Parenting Day. I haven't had one of those for a while.

I am a strict parent, and possibly at times harsher on a two year old than I need to be, although that yet remains to be seen since he's my mothering guinea pig. One of the things that gets me truly riled is deliberate disobedience, and today we had so much of that that alongside with an ASBO's worth of destruction that I literally began to feel myself boiling over with rage.

And then when I started to feel my palm literally twitching with the desire to deal out a slap so powerful as to make his head spin like something out of the Exorcist, I have decided that it is time to dole out a Time Out for both of us. He gets a session of alone time in his room and I get to spew some bile at Doctor LJ until my blood pressure returns to normal levels and I no longer feel like a walking Pressure Cooker.

This gig is hard, and I don't think I've felt this seething with fury since the baby days. But I'm an adult, and it's probably fun for him to push my buttons, so in a minute I'm going to get my howling child and declare an Amnesty and start over.

And alongside with not letting good moments be swallowed up by my rage, here's a moment from this morning that made me laugh:

M (attempting to wake my comatose, underslept carcass): Open your eyes, mummys! You'll see better!



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Mar. 1st, 2010 01:27 pm (UTC)
Aw, poor you! I guess babies are supposed to do this, because if they were 100% lovely all the time, you'd never, ever let them out of the house, would you? And if you never, ever lost your temper, they would never WANT to leave the house. Not now. I mean when they're older, with the whole leaving-the-house thing. They'd be 48 and still adoringly pushing blueberries into your mouth, and it would all be a bit weird.
Mar. 1st, 2010 01:32 pm (UTC)
I remember feeling a terrible urge to slap Josef's face when he spat in mine in the bakery when I was pregnant with Aleks. Thank god we were out in public: the rage was that intense that I might have given in to it were we at home.

Deep breaths, mama... :)
Mar. 21st, 2010 11:50 am (UTC)
I meant to reply to this ages ago.
Thank you for the comfort. It was much appreciated.
Mar. 1st, 2010 09:44 pm (UTC)
I had an evening much like your day. These children are sent to try us to the very last! If only it weren't for those adorable, heart-melting moments of JOY and loveliness we'd be able to sell them without hesitation. Motherhood!
Mar. 21st, 2010 11:51 am (UTC)
Haha, it's true. I'm sure they would fetch a good price too.
Damn the compelling power of the cute!
Mar. 2nd, 2010 10:48 am (UTC)
Aww, sorry you had rough day.

Open your eyes, mummys! You'll see better!

Mere two year olds speak like this? Really!!!

Hope you feel better soon healthwise too.

Mar. 2nd, 2010 01:19 pm (UTC)
Realizing the need for mutual time outs then implementing sounds like good parenting to me.
Mar. 5th, 2010 09:22 am (UTC)
I had so many of these in pregnancy. Being pregnant while living with a toddler is HARD and my heart goes out to you.

I am a harsh disciplinarian too, but sometimes I just boil over and shout and then feel bad. If I know I've been unreasonable, I go and sit in time-out to show Esme I'm in the wrong.

Last time I lost it and yelled at her, it was ten days before the end of pregnancy. I shouted SHUT UP several times in quick succession, then took myself to another room and cried. After a few minutes Esme, also crying, came to find me. She said "Oh. Let's wipe up those tears," and went to the loo to get loo roll. I started laughing, because I knew what she'd do, and she did: she tore the tiniest corner off the roll and came back to me with a square inch of paper to mop up a flood.

The comments you've left on my site recently make me want to take you out for elbows-on-table and beers. Your pregnancies sound just like mine, except for broken pelvis? Dear God. I hope you're okay. If ever you're not, you can tell me. Antonia x x
Apr. 10th, 2010 05:23 am (UTC)
Chrissy or David Murphy or Visionari.
Apr. 17th, 2010 07:57 am (UTC)
Apr. 17th, 2010 09:50 am (UTC)
I'll select some, and you'll tell me which ones you like.
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